Traveling With An Extrovert

Traveling with an extrovert can be a fantastic experience, yet if you are an introvert traveling with an extrovert will require an understanding of the extrovert’s preferences.

Psychological Preferences: The Human Touchpoints of Travel

Personality traits, aka an individual’s deep-seated psychological preferences, will remain unchanged regardless of the situation. Psychological traits are the human aspects of travel that have a substantial impact on travel outcomes be it good or bad. I am here to discuss how to navigate one’s travel traits to guarantee positive vacation experiences using the historically accurate Myers-Briggs™ psychological theory, which finds diverse interactions can genuinely create exhilarating experiences.

The Extrovert

The extrovert is one of the eight Myers-Briggs® preferences. Some people may gravitate to one end of the spectrum while others to the opposite end of the scale. Life too has a way of impacting how dominate your traits are, so please keep this thought in mind as we read further.

Extrovert Preferences, to name a few

  • Need affirmation from family, friends, or business associates to confirm you are doing a good job, you look good, etc.
  • Find it hard to listen and prefer to talk
  • Usually has a large group of friends
  • Typically likes to include a large group of people in their activities
  • Are approachable and never meet a stranger as they are typically outgoing and friendly
  • Dominates conversations
  • Looks with their mouth instead of eyes; “Where are my keys?” “Did you see my keys?” “Did I leave them in the front door again?”


The Introvert

Like the extrovert, the introvert presents in many ways. Some are so gregarious that they are mistaken as an extrovert, but astute observation says otherwise. Case in point, you as an introvert grew up in an extroverted family — painful I’m sure — but you would present more extroverted traits as opposed to an introvert who grew up in an introverted family. Make sense?

Introvert Preferences, to name a few

  • Prepares their thoughts before speaking
  • Me-time is necessary for recharging
  • Great listeners
  • Reserved
  • Reflective
  • A few close, genuine friends are typical
  • Can get suspicious of people that are over complimentary

Traveling with an Extrovert

Based on the preferences above can you see that traveling with a person whose traits are dissimilar from yours could be challenging? Traveling with an extrovert would undoubtedly lead to group travel, highly social travel situations and destinations that align with their unique preferences. For example a vacation to Miami Beach, a gorgeous, busy beach perfect for socializing, skiing in Park City, Utah, a trendy ski destination oozing with social encounters, or a trip to Paris to wander through the Louvre enjoying the art as much as the crowds.

On the flip side is the introvert. An introvert may prefer an escape to a mountaintop to contemplate life or travel with a few close friends to a small island in the Caribbean, or they may even opt for a solo vacation to recharge and reflect.

With Understanding Comes Realizations

So how do you travel with another person who has different preferences? You start first with an understanding of yourself, then move on to an understanding of your travel partner. Once you realize your greatest desires, it’s easier to express your wishes to your travel companion. When they also, embark on a journey of realization their unique travel personality traits, they too can better express their desires, wants and needs. None of this is selfish; it’s smart.

This understanding unveils new ways to travel with one another on a more profound human level. If you know your travel companion hate’s crowds would you force them to go to Disney, even though you are a Disney enthusiast who finds standing in line talking with other enthusiasts is half the fun!

The Reason For Vacations

No, you won’t force your partner to be in a place that would cause them anxiety. Remember this holds true for an introvert who wants to escape to a mountaintop for a morning of reflection. The extrovert would not be happy and probably annoy the crap out of the extrovert as they would be talking endlessly as to why this was a bad idea!

Compromise is key. Why not carve out time you will both benefit from — isn’t that the reason you are on vacation. You the extrovert can be off socializing to energize your soul while the introvert enjoys quiet time to spend in reflection and review. A win-win for both travelers. Coming together after you’ve both done what fills you up, will make the vacation all the more unforgettable.

iHeart Radio Interview

Want to learn more?

If you haven’t had a chance you may want to listen to my radio interview on my upcoming book topic, What’s Your Travel Personality; Let Your Inner Guide Be Your Travel Guide.  The interview aired on Speaking of Travel archived on iHeart Radi with host Marilyn Ball. I made it easy to listen. Here is a direct link to the podcast.

Or learn more by visiting my travel page, which presents the premise of travel personalities and the import role they play when planning a vacation.

Photo by Andrew Shiau on Unsplash

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